Because love isn’t one-size-fits-all.
Ah, Valentine’s Day — the time for grand gestures, heartfelt words, and maybe a cheeky glass of bubbly. But here’s the thing: showing love isn’t just about flowers and chocolates (though those are great too).
It’s also about celebrating the incredible friendships that keep us going. That’s why Galentine’s Day — February 13 — is just as special. Whether it’s your best friend, your partner, or even yourself, knowing how you and your loved ones express and receive love can make all the difference.
So, what are love languages, and how do you use them to level up your Valentine’s or Galentine’s Day? Let’s break it down.
What Are Love Languages?
The five love languages, first introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman, are all about how people express and feel love. While everyone appreciates all five, most of us have one or two that stand out. Here’s the cheat sheet:
1. Words of Affirmation
What It Means: Hearing “I love you” or “I appreciate you” makes your heart soar. Compliments and kind words go a long way.
Valentine’s Ideas: Write a heartfelt letter, send a sweet text, or give a genuine compliment.
Galentine’s Ideas: Record a voice note hyping up your bestie, create a shared gratitude list, or leave little affirmation notes for them to find.
2. Acts of Service
What It Means: Actions speak louder than words. You feel most loved when someone helps out or does something thoughtful, like making you coffee in the morning.
Valentine’s Ideas: Cook their favourite meal, tidy up without being asked, or run an errand they’ve been dreading.
Galentine’s Ideas: Offer to help with a project, pick up their favourite coffee, or send a “just because” care package.
3. Receiving Gifts
What It Means: It’s not about the price tag — it’s the thought behind the gift. A small token that says “I was thinking of you” means everything.
Valentine’s Ideas: Pick up a meaningful gift, like a book they’ve wanted or a surprise delivery of their favourite dessert.
Galentine’s Ideas: Surprise your bestie with a cute friendship bracelet, a DIY self-care kit, or a personalised playlist.
4. Quality Time
What It Means: Undivided attention is your love language. You feel most cherished when your loved ones are fully present, no phones allowed.
Valentine’s Ideas: Plan a tech-free date night, take a scenic walk together, or try a new activity as a duo.
Galentine’s Ideas: Host a girls’ night in, take a fitness class together, or schedule a deep, soul-nourishing catch-up over coffee.
5. Physical Touch
What It Means: Hugs, kisses, and hand-holding are everything. You feel loved when affection is expressed physically.
Valentine’s Ideas: Offer a massage, cuddle during a movie, or simply hold hands more often.
Galentine’s Ideas: Give the best hugs, link arms while walking, or schedule a self-care day with facials and relaxation.
How to Discover Your Love Language
Not sure what your love language is? Take a moment to reflect:
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What makes you feel most loved?
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What do you crave when you’re feeling down?
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How do you naturally express love to others?
Better yet, take the official love language quiz online — it’s a fun activity for you, your partner, and your bestie.
Bringing Love Languages to Life This Galentine’s & Valentine’s Day
Step 1: Talk About It
Sit down with your partner, your best friend, or even your mum, and share your love languages. Understanding theirs helps you show love in a way that truly resonates.
Step 2: Get Creative
Use their love language as inspiration. For example:
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Words of Affirmation: Leave love notes for your bestie or partner.
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Acts of Service: Surprise them with breakfast or help them with something on their to-do list.
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Receiving Gifts: Personalise something meaningful, like a photo album.
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Quality Time: Plan a day with no distractions — just genuine connection.
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Physical Touch: Plan a spa day with a massage or simply give more hugs.
Step 3: Celebrate Your Own Love Language
Self-love matters too. Know your love language and treat yourself accordingly. Love gifts? Buy yourself something special. Value quality time? Plan a solo date you’ll adore.
FAQs: Love Languages 101
Can love languages change over time?
Yes! Your love language might shift depending on your stage of life or circumstances. Stay tuned into what makes you and your loved ones feel loved.
Can you have more than one love language?
Absolutely. Most people have a primary love language and a secondary one.
What if my partner and I (or my best friend and I) have different love languages?
That’s normal! The key is learning to express love in their language while teaching them yours.
Do love languages apply to friendships too?
100%. Knowing a friend’s love language can strengthen your bond — like sending affirming texts to someone who values words.
The Bottom Line
This Galentine’s and Valentine’s Day, skip the clichés and speak the real language of love. Whether it’s a thoughtful gift, a cuddle on the couch, or a day of uninterrupted time together, the real magic is in making your loved ones feel seen, valued, and appreciated.
Because love isn’t just about what you say — it’s about how you show it.
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